“Waking up everyday has been nothing short of a struggle, lately. How can I raise my hands and be
thankful, when all I want and all that I’ve asked for, is the absolute opposite?”
At some point in life, we would be left feeling as though we’ve been surrounded by a black hole, with no where to go, no where to turn to. Up or down, our fate remains the same.
This, this is where the biggest of personal Jihad, comes in.
The emotional crusade.
The war between and within ourselves.
We could choose to either give up, or find a way to stand back up.
Yasmin Mogahed had said something entirely beautiful on this matter,
“This world cannot break you – unless you give it permission to. And it cannot own you, unless you hand it the keys – unless you give it your heart. And so if you handed those keys to dunya for a while – take it back. This isn’t the end. You don’t have to die here. Reclaim your heart, and place it with it’s rightful owner. Allah.”
The reminders we need to keep ourselves going 🙂
“God does not burden any human being with more than he is well able to bear.”
[Surah Al-Baqarah, Verse 286]
• In other words, all these struggles that we face is nothing more than we can take. The challenges that He tries us with is nothing but for the good and the betterment of ourselves. Though we may fail to see it now, but truly, Allah knows what is best. Verily the best is only what he gives and blesses us with.
• Allāh purifies you when you experience these emotions or pain. The Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allāh expiates some of his sins for that.” [Bukhāri]
• Complain only to Allāh. Many of us turn to venting or complaining to others when we are faced with a hardship, but when we look in the Qur’an, we see that the believers complain only to Allāh. Ya’qub (alayhi salaam) says to his sons when they bring the news that his son was accused of stealing, “So patience is most fitting (for me).” (12:83) But then in the next āyah, Allāh describes that he turned away from them and said privately, “Alas, my grief for Yusuf!” And he lost his sight because of the sorrow that he was suppressing.” (12:84) Ya’qub (alayhi salaam) did not say this in front of his family, but it was between himself and Allāh. Allāh says that he was “suppressing” (in Arabic: kadheem) and this means when someone holds their breath back to control their tears and their agony. It is to the point that they have trouble breathing because they cried so much. He was full of grief but he was not wailing and crying out loud, but rather holding back his anger. When his sons saw how much distress this news has caused him, they said to him, “By Allāh! You will never cease remembering Yusuf until you become weak with old age, or until you be of the dead.” (12:85) Then during the height of this anxiety he says, “I only complain of my suffering and sorrow to Allāh, and I know from Allāh that which you know not.” (12:86) subḥānAllāh! It is okay to feel these emotions, and people may see that you are distressed, but turn to Allāh and complain to Him alone.
• We are bound to be tested and pushed to our limits, each of us to our own level. When Maryam was delivering her son all alone, she said, “Would that I had died before this, and had been forgotten and out of sight!” (19:23) The tafseer mentions that Maryam (alayha salaam) was not only in physical pain and solitude, but also experiencing the pain of ostracism and isolation that occurs when you are telling the truth but no one believes you. She spoke these words at a time when she had already been given the good news of being chosen above all women and that her son would be a Prophet of Allāh. This reminds us that even the best people, whom Allāh has clearly chosen, are still human. Everyone’s patience and steadfastness is pushed to the limit at one time or another. Everyone reaches a point where they contemplate just giving up, but that doesn’t mean that it’s all over. We must always put your trust in Allāh and keep going. Remember, these are words said by Maryam, the best woman to walk on the earth! This shows us that being patient doesn’t necessarily mean that we won’t ever become overwhelmed, or won’t ever complain, but patience is when we do get overwhelmed and still keep going, and only complain to Allāh. (12:85) Sabr does not mean that you are happy with the decree of Allāh, sabr means that you accept the decree of Allāh even if you don’t understand it.
• The one that is of utmost importance for me to keep in mind, is – “Do not say “if” when a calamity befalls you or you did something that you’ve come to regret. The Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “Seek help from Allāh and do not lose heart, and if anything (in the form of trouble) comes to you, don’t say: If I had not done that, it would not have happened so and so, but say: Allāh did what He had ordained to do and your ‘if’ opens the (gate) for Shaytan.” [Muslim]
Things are not always as they seem. The mother of Musa (Moses) was told to throw her son in the river; Yusuf (Joseph) was left for dead in a well; Maryam (Mary) delivered a child alone; Yunus (Jonas) was swallowed by a whale; Ibrahim (Abraham) was thrown in the fire; A’ishah was slandered throughout the city; and Umm Salamah thought no one could be better than Abu Salamah…Yet look at how it turned out for them in the end. So don’t worry, Allāh has a plan for you.
May Allah SWT have us guided and may He bless us with his Noor and Hidayah on this blessed Friday. Jumuah Mubarak, everyone! ❤
We will be okay.
Extracted from : “The Supplication Series: Distress, Sadness and Anxiety” on